Crisis
Posted by mansoor on 05 Jan 2007 | Tagged as: heart 2 heart
One thing i was dreading, as i proceed at a breakneck speed down this corridor called life, was the ‘midlife crisis’. It is classically described as
“A mid-life crisis is an emotional state of doubt and anxiety in which a person becomes uncomfortable with the realization that life is halfway over. It commonly involves reflection on what the individual has done with his life up to that point, often with feelings that not enough was accomplished. The individual may feel boredom with their lives, jobs, or their partners, and may feel a strong desire to make changes in these areas. …”
(Source Wikipedia).
But even though i was dreading that part, i realized today, i’ve been going through another similar crisis even now, the Quarterlife Crisis, as posted by khizzy.
“You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren’t exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.”
“All this while you had been convincing yourself that you didn’t want to be tied down to any person; Now suddenly you have moments of self-doubt when you wonder if you waited too long and let someone special get away. You love someone but maybe love someone else too, and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person!”
“You want to be independent but suddenly, the idea of having the stability of a special someone to trust and lean on doesn’t seem all that bad. You want to be your own person and yet be taken care of at the same time .”
Over the last year, i’ve changed quite a bit internally. From the outside, the people who knew me say im still the same, but inside, i know im not. I’ve started re-thinking about my priorities, my aims and goals in life, my soon to end bachelor life, and the new chapter of living with a partner. How i want it to be, knowing i would probably not get it that way and yet i know i’ll be happy in it.
I think it was best summarized in that article…
“We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.”
I hope to God your right Khizzy! That all it takes is time…….. cuz its driving me nuts!
haha it touched me too-quarter life crisis.
You’re thinking about getting married already?
I thought boys like to wait as long as possible to delay what they call the impending doom!?:P
You are thinking about marriage or you have been set up with one by parents, or you have found someone….best of luck with all three.
“my soon to end bachelor life” —–> did i miss out on something?????
dude…ur like what - 20sometihng and ur already freakin out with the thought of such crises??? then where does that leave me??? i shud be six feet under by now!
fq:
hw: nah yaar.. not yet.. but u never know.. if the right person comes along (again) maybe i might :p
tanzila: its neither of those three…. but thats
psyched: lolzz! six feet under! nah :p u just reaching ur prime now yaar
who ate my comment????? >:(
which comment jee???
oops! now its there! how did that happen???? :S
its called growing up. and don’t stress, this too shall pass