Archive for December, 2007

Eid aaye, Eid gaye, Eid Mubarak!!

Whirlwinds! Cyclones! Typhoons even!

That’s how life can be characterized in the past week. If five months ago, i thought life was hard, trying to balance family, fun and work, that was peanuts compared to what goes on now.

Between her, both sets of parents, the dawats, the get togethers, the breakfasts, lunches and dinners, and the welcoming and farewells, work seems to be a distant reality.

Dad flew in at 5 AM on Eid day from a business trip to Germany. Talk about cutting it close! The morning was pretty traditional till namaz and breakfast, which was with dada. But afterwards became an Eid which was never even possible a couple of years ago. Qurbani at nani’s, lunch at home, followed by dinner at my nani-sas!

If that was not enough, picture all of that while deep in the recesses of flue! It was a very different Eid no doubt.

Dad stayed on for five days, and i seriously have no idea where the days went. With the fiance, the in-laws, the parents and the nanial, it all became very surreal. Today, here i am, sitting at work, thinking what the hell just happened, and through the major headache, caused by excessive coughing, i still smile.

I see her smile, and her eyes, and i know what i knew the day i met her.

I’m smitten!

Belated Eid Mubarak to all!
Merry Christmas to all followers of the Christian faith!
And Peace and prosperity to all humanity!

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Flying solo

The day before, by the grace of God, and the duas of my parents and beloved, i achieved another milestone my career. My first solo open enrollment executive training course. The boss is in Dubai, and didn’t approve any of the material, the venue nor my execution strategy. This was all my own doing. Well, not the venue, that was the marketing team.

Hurray 4 me!!

During november, my boss called me up and asked “how would you feel about giving a full day course on your own?” i swear my heart rate right then and there tripled! I was waiting for this moment for such a long time it wasn’t even funny! and to finally hear the words! As nonchalantly as i could, i replied, “i think im ready for it. conducting it wont be the problem, as long as i have administrative support”.

And that was that. A course was scheduled in December, and the marketing team given directions to ensure full participation. From the moment it was launched, there was good response. In the days leading up to the actual course, i got daily updates on who’s coming and who’s not. Even a friend from lahore called me up, saying he was sending one person from his organization to it. Ofcourse, im not sure he knows i was giving it in the first place. On the last day, we had to close registrations because we were exceeding capacity! All in all, i had 22 delegates from software houses, banking, pharmaceutical and the oil and gas industries, ranging from engineers to vice presidents! It was one hell an experience.

The fateful day started with me getting up at 5! and then sleeping again, finally to wake up around 7. After getting dressed and bumping my brother off the bed, we were on our way at 8 towards his workplace, and then the hotel. I entered the designated hall and was taken aback. Our marketing team had done a terrific job in acquiring the place. It was large, spacious and well lit, plus had direct access to the poolside ;). We got the training materials ready, me and the marketing manager from my company, who was there in a dual role, both to lend administrative support as well as gauge my performance. The first participant entered the hall at 9, a girl from one of our local software houses. Scheduled to start at 9:30, we were almost full attendance by 9:15. People were surprisingly punctual. I started making small talk with the delegates, on various topics related to the course, and finally at 9:25, a full five minutes before the actual time, started with the course. The last person to enter came at 9:32 and from there we went full steam ahead.

After doing the usual introductions, of the company, the course, myself and each of the participants, i started off with the first module, and completed it in under 20 minutes. Panic started settling in. The first module and the introductions were supposed to take almost 1.5 HOURS, i had it done in under 45 minutes!~ This was not good, people weren’t talking, weren’t discussing, and it was not a good sign. I shifted strategies, realigned their expectations and their understanding of the rules and regulations (which included full participation during each aspect of the course) and then sparked a discussion. Slowly, people started volunteering information, hesitantly asking questions, all the while i had to coax them into believing it was for their own good and for the good of the course. The next section, which i had to start up after the first tea break, was actually finished well before it. My course execution plan was in shambles and that’s when survival instincts set in. Till lunch, i had slowed down the pace of the course considerably, integrating discussions and questions throughout, till i slowly started getting a grip on where it was heading.

At precisely 1 PM, we broke for lunch. The timings, so far, were going like clockwork. People are forgiving if you mess up the teaching schedule, but they don’t forgive you if you take two minutes extra from their lunch time. Thankfully, they didn’t have to forgive me, instead, at precisely 2 PM all of them were seated back in the room for resumption of the course, without even being asked to! Something which i have not seen in quite sometime, and something for which i was thankful to the Almighty.

After a little more theory, i executed the first and only exercise of the course, an exercise i had designed myself, surprisingly which came to me almost in a dream. Well, not almost, it did. I woke up in the middle of the night a few days ago with this whole scenario in my head, jotted it down somewhat, and went back to sleep. Even i was surprised as to how it all happened. While the exercise was scheduled for half hour, we were so ahead of schedule, that i made the discussion go up a full hour. This is where most of the post lunch ’suroor’ (siesta time) we tend to get into was shaken off. There was fire in the group, indignation at being wrong, assertions that their way was the right way, until one of the most senior members of the group, a VP from a prominent bank of the country, recounted what it meant to be taught best practices. People calmed down, we proceeded with the exercise and completed it successfully.

Then came the last two sections after the tea break, by now, most of the material had already been thought, my legs felt like jelly everytime i had to take a step. since i had not sat down since 8 in the morning, and i could feel the cheek muscles struggle to remain in a smile, yet i had to go on. Indeed, during the tea break, i actually took off towards the pool side, and did a few stretching exercises :p it was so Japanese! These two sections were simply breezed through. The participants didn’t ask anything, and i didn’t volunteer much. I knew it would ruin my ratings, a performance appraisal we get at the end of the course by the participants, but i felt i had achieved all i could. This is one part i still need to work on though.

The course ended at 5:15, a full 15 minutes before schedule, and after the feedback forms were completed, everyone had LEFT the hall by 5:30! A resounding success as far as the timings were concerned.

The gratification, however, was the ending. Just as people were leaving, many of them lined up, shook my hand, and complimented me on a well done presentation. I had won the approval and admiration of this group. I was ecstatic! Here i was, a 25 year old, standing in front of people with 15+ years of experience, teaching them and coming away with a compliment. What more can a guy ask for.

The feather in my cap, however, was a line in one of the feedback forms. When asked how we can improve further, the response was

“cannot improve perfection”

Thankyou God, for your blessing and your kindness and your grace. Amen!

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Tambola Jumbola

So i love playing tambola, i recently realized.

Its not so much about the excitement or the pace of the game, but rather its about the quality time i get to spend with her. Small jokes, food, drinks and crossing off numbers. While on one hand, we’re the only youngsters there, with a majority of people being over 50, it does make me feel kinda old, but hey, one only has to be young at heart no?

My interest in tambola began early in childhood, thanks to navy function’s at the unit’s my dad was posted at. Often enough, there would a family evening of BBQ and tambola, and i get to play and be all excited. I guess going now just brings back those memories and makes me feel excited again.

The connection with her was totally astounding. For years, i’ve been searching for people who’d like to go play, since i didn’t have it in me to go alone. Since there was no one, i didn’t touch a tambola card for years. Then i discover, my in-laws love it, so much so, that they go twice a week, once to gymkhana and once to karachi club, every week! You can imagine how excited i was when I was asked to join them the first time! Apprehensive as well, but excited too.

And the fun thing is, they win as well! Yesterday, my FIL won Rs. 600 in two separate cards! My MIL won lucky draws twice in the last three weeks and even i won one game last week. How’s that for excitement! The numbers keep coming, the cutting gets intense, you’re totally focused, wishing, praying, hoping….

and then you shout! Just seeing his face at that time is worth it!

I have to admit, Im one of the few ‘damadjees‘ who actually likes spending time with his in-laws, almost as much as I do with her. And no, i am not destined to be a ghar jamai either, nor do i have any aspirations to that end. I prefer being independent and being my own man and caring for my own family, but that doesn’t mean i cant have good relations with them does it? Now if only shuffling all three families was as easy…

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Sanity Check!

When you know you’ve got it made… when you have communication at the backdrop of all the major events in your life with your better half.

I do not claim to be the perfect partner, infact, i do not claim to be even close. I have a lot of issues of my own, a lot of skeletons in my closet(s), and not to mention, a past which makes me see patterns in behavior which might not be there and (over)react accordingly.

Eventually though, i calm down, i forget the specifics and i remember the new patterns. These last few weeks, many facets of life have been clamoring for attention simultaneously, and being human, i’ve been stressed out quite a bit. From work, to family, to the new family, to friends… events occur and i’m left wondering.. how the hell do i manage?

Which is where she comes in, the bedrock of my sanity. Understanding, caring and above all, selfless, she’s made me wade through the though times, the waves, and the storms and let me weather it all out. What more could a guy ask for?
I’m not putting her up on a pedestal, though i badly want to. I realize it would be unfair to her, to her flaws and to her sensitivities. Through this post, im just acknowledging that throughout it all, she’s been a major factor to my sanity… she’s been my sanity check!

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