getting it done!
Posted by mansoor on 02 Jun 2008 | Tagged as: lifes anomaly's
Every time i open up this page to write something, i get side tracked…
call it writers block or lack of enthusiasm, but its been quite sometime since i wrote anything anywhere and its getting to me now. the thing is, i want to write, and i’ve got these huge ideas in my head and want to put them down on paper, but every time i try, i get side tracked!
so this post is essentially a try to get out of that slump!
thank you all of you for your comments on my previous post… there are, however, some clarifications i’d like to present.
1) it wasn’t the first breakup i’ve had.
2) it wasn’t the worst breakup i’ve had either
3) it wasn’t the fact that we split which is getting to me
what really was getting to me was the fact that in breaking up the engagement, i had put my parents through an emotional roller coaster, especially my father, who uptil the point of receiving the call, wasn’t even aware anything was happening. till that moment, all he probably thought that he was lucky to get such a good daughter-in-law… the look on his face when i went home that evening… THAT is what bugged me.
sid said that make sure you have no unresolved feelings and no unanswered questions… sid, everything is unresolved at this point, because communication was broken up entirely and i didn’t get anything said to me by anyone from their side. that, in itself, is something which is getting to me.
i’ve had a variety of breakups in the past, and even though each new one isn’t any less painful, it is actually easier to deal with them now. the only thing which gets to me is the point i mentioned above, making my parents go through it.
what else…..
oh yea, we had another bomb blast this morning. the windows of my office shook and i was a little shocked, upon investigation, i saw a cloud of smoke rising up from a distance… funny thing is, the moment the brain registered it was a blast, life went back to being normal. i looked around, some people looked at the smoke pillar, then went about their own business, some shopped, some parked, while others smoked and laughed. even i returned to mundane tasks and barely gave any thought to it till my father called to inquire about my whereabouts.
such is life… it really does not stop for anyone.
p.s. iiiiimmmm bbbbaaaaaaacccccckkkkkk!!! (well, almost!)
welcome back
the best thing i can do to help you out is recommend a movie.
Go watch High Fidelity.
This is the ONLY movie to watch after a breakup. I guarantee it will make you feel much better.
So do yourself a favor and watch High Fidelity tonight.
It’s a guy thing. The girls on this forum will never understand this.
on a different note…
it sucks that parents have to go through everything we go through in this region.
this is where I miss america. you makeup, breakup, get fired, get hired, get laid, whatever the hell you do your parents have nothing to do with it.
A note to Umar above: as someone who lives in America and is steeped in American culture, what I can say is, do not miss the above about America. That lack of intimacy, respect, whatever u wanna call it, with the people that brought you in this world adds up to a very lonely existance.
Why would your parents get worry ? I guess they still think you a child and immature :-). I did not need to say a single word to my parents, just said ‘It’s over, don’t want to talk about it’ and they were all cool about it.
umar: i’m gonna get that movie asap. nothing like a good movie to take your mind off things
as for parents not being involved, i have to agree with rebeka here… if they’re not involved, it does make it out to be a very lonely existence. also, since im very close to them, its not a lifestyle for me.
rebeka: i agree!
obi: dude, parents *always* think you are childish and immature. to them, you are always the little defenseless baby that they need to protect, no matter how much you grow in the world. that is their love and any parent who doesn’t do that looses the right to be called one.
in my case, they were cool about it, and they didn’t say anything apart from ‘it was always your decision’ but what hurt was what was present between the lines you know. also, it is the love i bear for them which makes me not want to put them in a situation where anyone would be able to point a finger at them.
call it old fashioned or stupid even, but that’s the love and respect i have for them, and for me, the break off of the engagement was a direct attack on that…
high fidelity eh?? *takes note*
when i went thru mine…i watched kill bill - both episodes - then watched provoked…and dished away the notebook
till this day, i still scoff at ramaanchik movies. but one feelgood movie i did watch and felt a wee bit better then was the wedding date…but i doubt if u can relate - its a totally gurl thing
khair…so im also trying to get myself back on track….wanna race??
kill bill is an interesting movie to say the least.. i like the way its choreographed, but that’s pretty much it :p
on racing: sure… ur on!!!
the wedding date is so definitely the gurly movie..just saw it last night n it made me feel infinitely better for some totally insane reason
watch it anyways, mansoor..might help knowing wat kinda movie goes for us gals 
high fidelity i havent seen..but yeah i saw life in a metro for the umpteenth time last night; some scenes in that movie make too much sense to me!
n if i had written this post, i would have replied in the very same manner as u did, to all the comment.. im grateful for my parents worrying over me, i hate wat the american freaking kids do to their folks..even if the said american kids happen to be my blood relatives!
wats with the race?
everyones getting back..so is meeeeeeeeeee, pretty soon 
n mocha is back on her blog too 
I really like what you wrote about parents, now a days very few people think this much about parents and their emotions…! and yeah.. isi ka naam zindagi hai :)!
Watch ‘The Departed’ if not as yet…or watch the Godfather Trilogy….one after the other…that is movie medication…
On the funny side, your too many breakups remind me of one of my class mates who used to come in maths class singing “tarap tarap ker is dil sey aah nikalti rahi” and when I used to aks him han bhai kia hua…he used to reply ” ab kiyon udas phirtay ho sardiyon ki shamon mein..is traha tu hot ahay is tarah key kamon mein!” LOL and the whole class use dto laugh at it! (and that was evry three months:P
About parents, I guess your’s are so right about “it always was ur decission” The might be shocked, but not hurt as the son is safe. What might hurt them is you being sad.
I know parents who dont care about how the kid will feel, they just wnat to impose what they want. And this is an example which is very common in our society.
You know it, it happened before and God forbid, might happen again! So you nee dto sort out the reason and solve that.And be happy dude, it’s not teh end of teh world. All that hapens, happens fo rteh best. Im a live example infront! And who knows it better than you!
Be happy, we so wanna see you haPPPy!
uD: i dont believe i’ve even seen life in a metro yet… will make a note of it, plus the other movie you mentioned
the race.. well, its a race to see who gets back on their feet (emotionally) the first 
you wanna join?
and great that icedmocha is back! missed her style
ayesha: thanks… i do think that way, and partly because i’ve been blessed with parents who’ve put me first in everything they’ve done as well.. so its just returning the favour
plus, im not gonna leave them hanging now that they need me 
unaiza: lol! i know, i know.. i have a bad repo! even my boss commented on my ‘6 girlfriends at once’ phase :S!!! i dont think i’ve even had more than 3 at a time before…! ‘bad say badnaam bura’ all the way i guess
and dont worry! i am happy now again mashallah! plus, we need to get together so that you can point out another girl for me 
you’re an absolute angel for considering your parents first!!..there shud be more beta jeez like you in our society.
being a ’social person’ do they have comedy shows in isloo? id definately recommend you checking them out. May Allah bless you and your parents. Ameen.
Hey how about movie “40 year old virgin”
Ahh I iwsh I could! You need to come to Dxb to catch up now. You know what? you have been my best girl friend:P LOL! have so much to tell u! worst i sthat I dont cath u online too:P
Chalo now all the best..and smile!
Hey Mansoor,
Thanks for the clarification. I think i suffer also of a writers block ”permanent”.
I can not say, how your parents might feel in the emotional roalercoaster. But reading your conserns about them. I think they love you a lot, and your are verry lucky of having parents like them. And they are lucky off having u as a son.
I agree with rebekka. It’s a lonely excistence if you don’t have familymembers to care for.
from my experience with parents, they are mostly sad because they want to see you happy.
Life in a Metro, is a very good movie. realistic, from this time, showing everyday problems, and totaly not filmy.
I would never thought that you had a ‘6 girlfriends at once phase’.
Can i join the race. Were can i sign up.
hiya! long time no read! lol..seriously havent been reading ur blog for the longest tme, i hope u still remember me though. anyway point being that life goes on.and once u move on and are happy so will ur parents. inshallah.
in other news, im blogging aaj kal, fashion stuff, glamjunction.wordpress.com
chk out